Every year about this time I hear from people for whom Mother’s Day evokes feelings that are anything but warm and fuzzy–people raised by mothers who overall did them a lot more harm than good. [Read more…]
My boyfriend doesn’t want me going to college
Dear John,
I’m a high school senior. Last month the college I most want to attend (for its awesome special education program) awarded me a full scholarship. I was so excited. My boyfriend, however, was not. He definitely doesn’t want me to move 300 miles away. [Read more…]
“Should I have a threesome with my husband and his friend?”
Dear John,
I’m not sure if this is the type of question you’d normally answer, but I figured I had to ask. [Read more…]
Interview with a woman in a long-term polyamorous relationship
A woman wrote to share with me that, in all ways but legally, she is equally married to both a man and a woman. I asked her if she would be willing to let me interview her about that. At first she was reticent–but, as she put it, “the opportunity to share with others a glimpse into our life is too good to pass up.” So here’s our interview. [Read more…]
Should I break up with the man I love because he’s an alcoholic?
Dear John,
I wanted to ask your opinion on being in a relationship with an alcoholic. I fell in love with a man before realizing that’s what he is. Now, because of his drinking, I am about ready to move on. He is a good man: generous, kind, creative, industrious, open, encouraging, never critical or harsh to me. Except for his prodigious alcohol consumption, he also takes good care of himself. [Read more…]